A Letter from a Birthmother to her Birthson

How do you ever start a letter like this? Hello, hi, dear, to? I chose to start mine with, how amazing are your moms? I can still remember the day I met your moms, simple pure honest and genuine love, that’s what they brought into the room. I was the one who was honored to be the one to hold the gift of forever for them and you in my belly and heart.

I viewed adoption much differently then most. I believe everything happens for a reason. I always have, still do and always will. I’m sure you will read this and want to ask just as many questions as a birthmother would want to ask her child. In our situation, I know you; I see your smiles, your growth, your milestones, and your moms’ love for you. I have been part of it all, even if you didn’t see me or were too young to know.

From the very start of my journey with you, I knew adoption was the option for you, you were a gift of life and love for two people who had been waiting for so long. I took my time and went over every possibility with not only you in mind but myself in mind as well. I found the perfect parents for you in your mothers. The perfect combination of wit and sass, honesty and trust, devoted and loyal, humor and laughter. I knew from the moment I met your moms you were their son and were always meant to be with them, and I to be part of your journey.

With a plan in place, a solid foundation of trust, openness and honesty was founded. The freedom to talk about my feelings and worries and your moms to be able to share theirs. We became a family, a unique one, one that we were and are still so proud of.

The trust and strength we had leading up to your birth is a testament to our pact we made and the strength of your family. I promised to carry their son, to open my heart and my family to them from the time of pregnancy till forever and the ever after that. I love them like Sisters, and they have loved me back the same way.

Your future moms made the same promises to me, to always teach you about where and who you came from, to always include me and my family in you and your family’s milestones. Those promises have never been broken but grown stronger with time. They gave me a gift by allowing me to watch them hold you for the first time. That to me is a miracle, a blessing in life I was granted. I witnessed the beginning of your lifetime in the hands of your mothers.

I have never doubted the amazing person I had growing inside me, you are more than a “gift”, you were “greatness” waiting to take the world by storm. Adoption was the “gift” to me. I hope you always feel the light, the hope and the sense of power you have from being born into a situation of overflowing love and stability from all of us. That you take every opportunity that comes your way.

I placed you my child with your moms who became my sisters. Our families continually see each other and grow. You never lost me, you never will lose me, and I will never lose you thanks to your mothers.

I wrote you a story, its called the story of you. With that book you have all my love and all the knowledge of where you came from. I have letters tucked away for you for all your special moments in life. That story is yours, and your mothers care for it and protect and watch over it with such love.

How to finish a letter from your birthmother: “in the end”, “we will meet again soon”, “know I always loved you”…… The answer is there is no end only a continue. I will continue to love you and your moms just as much and more then when we all began this journey, so I say ~ till next time.